sis lish, picking up from what you said in intro. forum topic
you said you put your thoughts forward in here only and anyone can disagree and so on.
certainly i agree on this point.
even though i just put what you think, you deeply lyed upon the things happen around us and what we do in our socity.
and your thougts and you are affacted by the coultural background and tradition life that goes on around you at all time.
so, coultural background, and tradition plays a big role in here. and
i will put my answers from my life, my thoughts, my belief and my coulture and tradtion. to depand my point or to reject your point or others.
kind of like debate.
Man! i hate that arrange marriage that's defination is you don't know the person you are marrying and there is no love in it.
you know when i wrote in my homework about it to a lit log question and answer thing,
so there was a line (from book, the color of water, about a jews lady who became christian and a mother of a black boy, wife of a black man back in time 1960 or earlier)
the lady said her mother marriage was arrange and she gave the above definition
so i asked
how can they live happify if there is no love and so on. my teacher respond to it
how come you love someone you don't know
so it goes, back why don't you know?
from islamic point of view (my belief) one must know and the girl has all right to talk to the person before marrying, but someone should be there while they talk, may stay far and let them talk and so on.
now look in bangladesh, or pakishtan, what is happening?
no wonder no muslim family is happy where those muslim are dominent, you guys put statistic of bangladesh and so on. that's why i said these.
you trust me, i see rarely some muslim families are happy, mostly those that have great deal of understanding of islamic laws and rulings and knows it well and follows it well.
other than that, those are living mostly in hell, by this i mean that they have so many problems in them.
what i prepare, love and arrange being together, mixed. i will not let anyone take my right to know the person i will marry before i go on marrying him. i will not let any one take my right to decide what will be my dawry is (what do you call in bangla that dawry thing, kabin or whatever, i don't know)
if i don't stand up for my right, those guys, men out there will torture me like hell.
i will tolerate none of those stupidity in my family.
things should be in balance.
those teenage lovers have no idea of family, so those marriages are no batter than what i don't know.
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I know i do not know, and therefore i want to know. by: why? (translation of greece name)
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Hey that's a joke. I just can't think about marrying someone without knowing her well. I mean well. Not just seeing a person 2/3 days and talk about what you like, what you eat (as these are questions they usually ask at first session 
) So, it needs time to know the person better. Then both party can think about it and take decision.
